That guy who's not in a relationship giving relationship advice

Yeah, I'm going to be... that guy.

But seriously...

I was on Facebook tonight, and I saw a girl posting pictures of her and her boyfriend. Her headline was: "Tomorrow, me and my best friend will have been together for one month!!!!"

I've just realized something about social media...

We use it as a way to reassure ourselves.

If you're posting a picture about how your 1-month anniversary with your boyfriend is tomorrow, then you're mainly trying to let the world know that you're in a relationship and that they should take you seriously now. Because you're a freshman, and you've been in "love" for one month, and "this is a big deal so look at this picture of me and my boyfriend and see how grown up I am".

The problem with this mentality is that it's falsifying what we call a "relationship". In a real relationship, you love someone, but you don't use that relationship as a way to boost your social status. It's like a Christian who constantly claims that they love Jesus, yet never attempts to have a real relationship with him. You can post every Bible verse you want, talk about how you went to church this morning, and talk about how Jesus will solve everyone's problems in the world, but unless you're actually exercising those words, then they are hollow. I'm not going to say that I've never done it, because I have, but this issue becomes so blatantly obvious when we compare it to things like going overboard for your 1-month anniversary.

Then again, maybe one month of dating really is an accomplishment nowadays. "Love" or whatever it is tends to be really loose and... dare I say, taken for granted in our culture? Perhaps one month actually is a big deal.

I guess I wouldn't really know. *wink*